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We're Blooming Lilies
Blooming Lilies was born from one truth: you're not broken. You're not crazy. You're surviving.
For years, I questioned myself—feeling torn, ashamed, and alone. But when I began to understand the science behind trauma, fear, and survival, everything changed. I realized I wasn’t weak. I was human. And so are you.
Every emotion you’ve felt—confusion, doubt, guilt, longing for something better—was a survival response to a system that was never built with your safety in mind. You're not alone. You’re navigating a world that misunderstands your pain and a legal system that too often deepens it.
Family Court makes decisions about custody, divorce, and your children’s futures. Criminal Court handles the assaults and the violence. Integrated Domestic Violence Courts try to connect the pieces—but most of the time, these systems speak different languages, leaving survivors more overwhelmed, not less.
As I wrote my story, I realized it wasn’t enough to simply share the pain. I had to help others understand why we make the choices we do. The freezing. The self-doubt. The staying. The leaving. The breaking apart of families in order to save them. It’s all rooted in the neuroscience of trauma—and knowing that can change everything.
Through my own journey, I discovered how difficult it is to find real help when you need more than a crisis hotline or temporary shelter. I searched for legal strategies, court navigation tools, and expert witnesses—and often came up empty. No one prepared me to become the advocate I’d have to be—not just for myself, but for my child.
I founded Blooming Lilies because survivors deserve more than surface-level support. You deserve specialized tools, practical guidance, and someone who sees you—not as a case, but as a whole person. This is a place for real answers, deep compassion, and the kind of strength that blooms even in the darkest seasons.
Blooming Lilies exists to help survivors navigate the maze—of courts, of systems, of healing—with clarity, power, and hope.
What We Help With
As you move through the website, you’ll come across a lot of information—and it’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed. Go at your own pace. Take notes. Breathe. Focus on what speaks to your situation, and let the rest wait until you’re ready.
Helping You Up
When you’re doing your best to heal—while caring for yourself and your kids, keeping the house together, paying bills, showing up to court, working, and juggling everything else—it’s easy to feel worn down. You’ve got so much on your plate, and sometimes, you just need something to lift you back up. That’s why we created the Positivity & Calm section. Come back to it whenever you need a little strength, a little hope, or just a moment to breathe. We’re here for you.
Understanding Trauma
Understanding trauma after leaving your abuser can feel incredibly confusing—and it doesn’t end when the relationship does. Even now, years later, I’m still uncovering new layers in my own healing. That’s why I created these resources—so we can learn together. Explore our blog, dive into our courses, and take what resonates. I wish I had access to this kind of support when I needed it most. I’m so grateful you do.
Learning About Laws & BillsÂ
There are so many laws—and bills (basically laws-in-progress that still need enough voices behind them)—that most people have never even heard of.
Parenting SupportÂ
Parenting through trauma is incredibly hard—but you don’t have to do it alone. This section helps by offering guidance, tools, and encouragement to support your child’s healing while navigating your own.
Navigating Family CourtÂ
Let me be real with you—Family Court can feel like a nightmare. We won’t sugarcoat anything in this section, because pretending it’ll all be okay only leaves you unprepared, just like I once was. That’s not something I’ll ever do to you, and it’s not something anyone at Blooming Lilies will either. The truth is, Family Court often prioritizes parental rights over the safety and well-being of you and your children—even in cases involving abuse. But you don’t have to face it alone. My team and I have been through it, and we’re here to help you navigate every step.
In this section, we'll also discuss Family Court Reform and the power of your voice.
Sharing a Personal Journey
Blooming Lilies is the unfiltered, poetic story of living through domestic abuse, facing the heartbreak of family court, and finding the quiet strength to survive. It’s a voice for every survivor who has felt silenced, a mirror for those still walking through the shadows, and a reminder that you are not alone.
Woven with both pain and hope, this memoir calls us to demand justice, protect our children, and believe in a future where healing is possible and safety is real.
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